When trying to get to grips with the practical issues of offering my services as a touch and cuddle therapist online what is evident is that, during an in-person session, I’m not just embracing clients in the physical sense but also emotionally, socially, psychologically and spiritually too.
This work requires me to “turn towards” suffering and to be absolutely present in body and mind.
This enables clients to feel safe, to be authentic with their own emotions, to prioritise their emotions and that need for connection and presence that isn’t being met.
And to feel accepted just as they are.
It’s an opportunity for them to slow down and experience a deeper moment – a moment where no-one is trying to heal them, fix them, change them.
It seems that as I bear witness to what is there for them in that moment it allows them to bear witness to themselves.
I can still do this for you from a distance. It is not the same as the closeness experienced in-person. But nothing right now is quite the same as it was.
There is more than one way to hold someone…….
There are many fall-outs from this current pandemic. The obvious isolation that we’re having to maintain is having a knock-on effect with our mental health and further increasing feelings of loneliness and some front-line workers are experiencing trauma. I’m finding an increasing number of people contacting me for support through connection so I’ve been exploring ways to try to meet your needs.
So, perhaps, you’re wondering how Touch and Cuddle Therapy can support you in a time when we can’t be physically close?
Here are some other ways that I might just help support you:
- I am offering virtual cuddle sessions via video-link (the camera can be switched off during the main part of the session if you feel self-conscious). As a trained meditation teacher the session will run as a visualisation. These sessions will run for 20 minutes up to an hour dependant on your needs.
- We can also connect in a way that is deeper than words can fulfil with an online eye gazing hug. The first few seconds can sometimes feel the most awkward but as the seconds tick by it’s easier to connect with anothers heart and simply appreciate that beautiful, united moment. Some questions you might want answering: Can I blink?
Of course! It’s not a staring competition.
Can I look away?
Yes, anytime you feel the need to avert your gaze you are welcome to do so.
What if I burst out laughing or cry?
Whatever arises for you is fine. We can support each other just by being present with each other. No words necessary.
How long will we eye hug for?
For as long as we are comfortable to do so whether that’s 2 seconds, 2 minutes or 20 minutes.
The only thing I would suggest is that you approach it with no expectations. Be open to whatever the experience is.
And, if you’re into meditation, it’s a beautiful form of meditation too.
- I can guide you through a beautiful exercise in self-soothing. This exercise teaches you how to use touch and reconnect with your own body.
Of course, nothing will beat that physical experience but I can hold you in other ways.
The fee for this new way of working is simple – Pay from Your Heart. I will give you a link when you book for paypal or bank transfer and you are welcome to pay before or after the session. I’ve set it up this way deliberately as I know many may be struggling financially currently as well as mentally and emotionally.
Because this current way of working doesn’t require us to meet in- person I’ve suspended the need for ID checks.
As with all of my sessions you are welcome to stop the session at any time as am I if I feel things are not working well for us.
This is a wonderful way to feel nourished and supported at a time when you may be feeling very vulnerable.
And, if none of these options appeal to you I’m also available for online one-one meditations. We can discuss what your meditation needs are and start from there.
I’m still here for you so do reach out if you need me.
As you are aware providing in-person cuddle sessions is currently not an option due to covid 19. It is all of our responsibility to protect each other especially those most vulnerable during this event. We are not putting our lives on hold but holding the lives of others in our hands.
I am already seeing the fallout from this event as an increasing number of people get in touch with me due loneliness from social isolation to trauma experiences of front line workers. This is looking at being a serious mental health crisis.
But do not despair!
This is my new way of working and supporting my clients until we are able to meet in person.
I am offering virtual cuddle sessions via video link (the camera can be switched off during the main part of the session so you don’t feel self conscious).
“How is that possible?!” I hear you ask. Well, as a trained meditation teacher the session will run as a visualisation. Of course, nothing will beat that physical experience but I can hold you in other ways.
These sessions will run for 20 minutes up to an hour depending on your needs.
The fee for this new way of working is simple – pay from your heart. I will give a link to you on booking for paypal or bank transfer.
It’s that simple. You can pay before or after the session.
As it’s via video link there will be no need to go through the ID checks. ID checks will resume when in-person sessions resume.
This is a wonderful way to feel nourished and supported.
And if a cuddle visualisation doesn’t appeal to you then having a simple online one to one meditation may just hit the spot. We can discuss what your meditation needs are and work from there.
There’s no need to suffer in silence.
You can find me discussing the importance of touch for BBC Radio Scotland on the Sunday Morning show with presenter Connie McLaughlin and Psychologist Dr Suzanne Zeedyk. Fast forward to 1:09 just after a song by Kate Bush to catch the interview. The interview lasts for approximately 10 minutes.
The Importance Of Touch BBC Radio Scotland
You can also listen in to The Touch Test BBC Radio 4 and take part in the survey The Touch Test Survey
Some people head for the gym, some do yoga, some go for a run and some just chill in front of the tv following a full and hectic day at work. All are good.
But have you considered how sharing an hours cuddle might ease the days stresses?
The release of neuro-chemicals when we physically connect can lower blood pressure, ease pain and lower the stress hormone cortisol to promote better sleep.
And when some of our work environments leave little room for a more valuable interaction the provision of an extended hug or even a simple hand hold can bring that deeper connection that we feel our day has lacked and that is so vital for our well-being.
This space at The Therapy Rooms – Saddleworth is a great venue to unwind, to ease you out of your work day and into a more relaxed evening.
Don’t forget I cater for all regardless of gender, sex or orientation.